Why we should be inspiring learners rather than pushing for results!

If you feel that the current education is failing children badly in the academic and morality aspects, you might want to do something positive and proactive about it. Complaining and lamenting get you nowhere.

Why not come and learn how to inspire learners so that they may learn with inspired purpose and drive? There are still spaces left to be part of our small group of education hackers eager to share our visions and insights in nurturing inspired learners so that the learning process and outcome become more than what you can possibly imagine – because we believe in the magic that an inspired mind can create!

KV and I will be sharing our thoughts and experiences on how to nurture inspired and independent learners through the spirit of unschooling.

See you there!

Success on the ice for 2 young homeschoolers!


Congratulations to Zhang En & Zhang Hui for your winning efforts in the recent ice-skating competition!

1. LBS: Can you tell us the name of the competition and who were the competitors?

Zhang En & Zhang Hui: Thank you Aunty Wai Leng!

1) The competition was called the 10th Malaysia Open National Figure Skating Championship & Basic Skills Competition.

We joined the Basic Skills Competition. The basic skill competitors are from Sunway Ice Rink and IOI ice rink, and our Royale Bintang ice rink.

2. LBS: What events did you compete in and what placing did you get?

Zhang En: I joined basic level 2 and got placing no 1.

Zhang Hui: I joined basic level 1, placing no 2.

3. LBS: Was this your first competition? And what was the experience like?

Zhang En: For ice skating competition, yes, it was our first.

Zhang Hui : I am very happy when I won second placing. On that day I was nervous, excited and wonder what placing will I get.

Zhang En: During the training process, it was fun but hard work. On the event day, I felt nervous and excited. When I finished performing, I was so proud of myself that I was able to go through it despite all the mixed feelings that I had. And for the first time, I spoke to Julian Yee! (Malaysia’s national champion skater!)

4. LBS: How do you feel winning at your event? Are you going to join more competitions in the near future?

Zhang Hui : I was so happy that I couldn’t wait for my name to be announced.

Zhang En : I felt thankful for the opportunity that Royale Ice Skating Rink has given me.

Yes! We would like to join more competition in the near future!

5. LBS: Would you recommend other kids to take up ice-skating? Why?

Zhang En/Hui : It is up to the kids. If they like it, yes, why not?

6. What were some of the challenges you faced with the competition?

Zhang En : I had to deal with the pressure of winning, mainly because I was being sponsored by the rink. And half way through, my skate broke and I needed to get used to the new shoes in a short time.

Zhang Hui: I fell down countless times while doing my jumps with my new pair of skates that came with a bigger toe. My knees swelled but I had to continue training despite having muscle and ankle pains!

Interview with their mom, Shannon Ng:

1. LBS: How did your girls stumble upon ice-skating? Did they ask to take classes?

Shannon: It started off as a home-schoolers-playdate at the newly opened Royale Ice Rink which is near our home. in 2012. On the first visit, ZE glided naturally. ZH did so at the second visit.

Much later, on one visit, they joined the free class offered at the rink. They enjoyed it and thereafter, they asked to take figure skating class.

2. LBS: Did you foresee that they will be taking part in competitions, let alone win medals?

Shannon: No I didn’t foresee that. They started lessons with a group of home school friends to pick up figure skating elements. I didn’t think much about it, seeing it as just a physical activity for them with their friends. Besides, I do not have much knowledge about ice skating and I also did not find out about it.

At one level, their coach told me to buy figure skates shoes. At that point, I found out how expensive a pair of figure skate shoes can be !

I discussed with the kids and they said they wanted to continue learning. We tried to source for cheaper shoes in Singapore to start off with.

As for this competition, both went for the Royale Ice Rink sponsorship selection. ZE got selected and was fully sponsored by Royale in coach fees and competition fees.
For ZH, the coach wished for her to be part of the national team, and offered to train her for free. I only paid for the competition fees.
Without the sponsorships, I wouldn’t have been able to let them join this competition or others.

3. LBS: What are the winning factors for their success?

Shannon: I personally feel that firstly it is because they enjoy it a lot. After training, they were exhausted but feeling happy and contented.
Secondly, they don’t mind the hard work because they enjoyed the training.

Thirdly, it is their perseverance and emotional strength. They go on despite the muscle pains and pressure from the coaches.

Winning to us is not just getting the medal – it is the whole process of going through the training and being able to perform and persevere to the end.

4. LBS: How do you feel about their involvement in ice-skating? Do they have other interests besides this?

Shannon: As long as they enjoy ice skating, I will feel it is okay for them to carry on.

However, I do feel it is a very expensive sport. We have had discussions after discussions on how to continue on with the financial commitment, and in the end, we always keep going due to the girls’ love for skating. The coaches and parents are very supportive here and have contributed much to the girls’ development and needs, which I’m very appreciative of!

Coaching fees is charged by the hour. Then there are the expenses in purchasing shoes and costumes and other accessories. But if the kids love it, I think it is all worth our investments in time, effort and money!

And yes, they have many other interests like music, languages and dance.

5. LBS: Would you recommend other parents to let their kids do competitive skating?

Shannon: If the kids love it, I think they should go for it. Because ice-skating is still a relatively new sport here and opportunities to shine is good. We can also look into building a career in this sport for the kids in the future when they are older.

Talking about being competitive, for us, it is not the “dog eats dog” kind. We wish for others to succeed as much as we wish it for ourselves. That’s the spirit of sportsmanship!

Saved by unschooling!

Here’s another unschooling story with a happy ending from a mother who truly believes in her son!

When we first decided to homeschool Greg, it was a very scary time for us parents as we didn’t know what to expect; and quite frankly, didn’t know how we were going to homeschool him. But we knew we had to do something because Greg was getting so upset and unhappy about going to school.

He started having night terrors every night, crying out for help, repeating that he is dying. In the mornings, there was tears and talks about wanting to die as we walked to school. In the afternoons, great big heart-wrenching tears will spill from his eyes again as he spotted me standing outside the classroom.

We didn’t know what was the matter with him while school kept assuring us that he was fine and was one of the best student in his class. He was fast-tracked into the reading group two years ahead of his class.

But we knew, whatever he was so unhappy about…we wouldn’t know until we gave ourselves and him a chance to find out. And that will mean taking him off what we felt was like a “runaway train” and settle him back down onto the ground. And so, in December 2006, we deregistered six year old Greg from his school and our homeschooling journey began. We had sent a happy, bubbly independent child into the education system, and it returned to us a nervous, clinging child who wouldn’t leave my side nor the house.

We thought we were dealing with quirks of a gifted child as Greg was tested to be gifted at age 4 by an educational psychologist. But little did we know, 18 months into our homeschooling/ unschooling, Greg was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome.

A year later, Greg was informally diagnosed to have Sensory Integration Disorder. It basically means he has faulty sensors in his body. They are either over sensitive, or under sensitive to a point of not working. Now we understood how school had become such a horrible experience for him. The noise, smell, tactile issues and the temperature fluctuations. It was all playing havoc on him, and confusing his mind.

In 2011, Greg was diagnosed to be suffering from allergies that was effecting his moods and behaviours. After a diligent few years of gluten free, egg free, potato and tomato free diet…we saw huge improvements.

Unschooling has allowed us to strip everything down to bare basics and just focus on Greg with minimal variables interfering. It has allowed us parents to understand what and where is the root of the problem, and help bridge or fix it.

It has been quite a journey for all of us. No matter how dire it may seem sometimes, it has never crossed our mind that it cannot be done. We have always had faith that with Will and determination, anything is possible. And so it is, as evident in Greg’s confidence in himself.

I want to share my happy story here!

My son Greg has done a mock exam for his German language and passed with 94% mark. Yesterday practise mock exam scored 100%. He is now registered to do the CEFR German language exam in this coming April..the first out of the four that he can complete over the next 3 years.

This is quite an accomplishment for a 14 yr old. And a big sigh of relief for us parents! What matters most for me is not the exam scores but more of the fact that he WANTS to do it. He is happy and confident to do it. He is challenging himself to do it.

Not bad for a kid who spent the first 18 months of our unschooling life shutting me and his dad out, just focusing on playstation gaming . We were housebound as Greg refused to go anywhere. Greg was suffering what can only be described as school phobia. Any sight of school uniform or school going kids will make him nervous. Any school books or worksheets will result in him having an emotional meltdown. He hates writing (still do but not so bad now) and absolutely detest any form of timed activities. So any form of test or exams will be absolutely out of the question. And digital gaming was his only safe haven.

It is not hard to see how we became unschoolers. We had no choice. He was definitely a child who knew his mind, knew what he wanted and most of the time WHAT HE DOESN’T WANT! I don’t think I have much of a tongue left after all these years of having to hold my opinions back when dealing with Greg’s habit of not wanting to try anything. Or he could start something, doing really well with it..and then completely drop out of it.

I can only console myself that it is just him trying things out. Practising, I call it.

Over the years, we saw Greg growing up in his own pace and time, and trying out new things. It all has to be what he wants and nothing of what we suggest.

In the last 18 months, Greg have decided to try languages. He started with Mandarin because it was something to do that will get him out of the house. Then he asked for German language lessons. Two months ago, he started Russian language lessons and now he is keen to start French this coming June. Last month, he told me that I have to teach him the Malay language.

And so, I have been informed by my son that his ambition now is to be a translator. Not bad for a 14 yr old to have figured out what he wants to be in the future. When i was 14 year old, I was too busy worrying about school!

I have to say, I am very proud of my ” eat, sleep and dream” video-gaming son to have figured out what he wants out of life. That itself is quite an achievement. But most of all… him being the perfectionist that he is, allowing himself to take some risk and try something…this is the true achievement that I am so very proud. This is the final barrier to him being his very best….BROKEN!!

No more “I can’t do it” and more “I can, and I did!”

As I have always shared, small steps can lead to big things. All we need is Faith. Every story shared here in this group, signifies something important and valuable. It tells us, it can be done.

Every achievement, no matter how minute and insignificant it may seem to be, forms part of a solid foundation that will launch many more great things.

Have faith. Especially to parents with avid digital gaming kids….good things can come from digital gaming.

Thank you for allowing me to share my story here. For more encouraging true life home schooling stories, please come join us at https://www.facebook.com/groups/362320523854093/permalink/791785650907576/.

Amrita’s Treehouse Open Mic

Amrita started Treehouse Open Mic as a platform for budding musicians to showcase their talents in a clean and safe environment for the young. Being a teenager herself, she is well aware of the dire need for such a platform other than those that are held at pubs and bars late at night. We applaud her dedication to her art and her willingness to share this platform with others! See you there tomorrow!

Our CNY 2015 in pictures

This lunar year seemed to have come and gone in a flash! What makes it meaningful is the connecting and reconnecting of relationships (both new and old). And the practice and preservation of culture and tradition.

Here are some of the highlights:

Chinese New Year on ice at the Royale Ice-skating rink! Amrita was part of the CNY on ice performers who entertained guests at the hotel rink.

CNY Tea-ceremony at Clic – a cultural practice & tradition for children to show their gratitude and respect to their parents and elders.

CNY get-together with family & friends at Clic! The Clic family is growing and strives to be an inclusive community for all!

The biggest & most awesome low sung ever! Lovingly prepared by Kent Leong & his mom!

A game of “da feng chui” (Wind Blows) and how a simple game can be so inclusive and fun!

CNY singing performance by the kids at Lecadia Primacare in KL. Thank you for inviting us again, auntie Amy Ratos!

The highlight of the evening – Dragon dance! The dragon was the live-wire of the evening!

Joined by two young lions or were they lioness? ;)

Here’s wishing everyone a great year ahead!!!

Our Unschooling photo Diary Jan-Feb 2015

Amrita’s ballet class for homeschoolers finally took off in January! It is held at a dance studio in Subang Jaya.

Amrita shared her songs with her special friends at Dignity & Services – a volunteer support group for those with special needs, in Taman Tun Dr Ismail.

Learning Bahasa Malaysia through making home videos.

Sam turns 18! And she is happy that her shoulders have healed and she is now going full force back into dancing and performing!

Sharing session in Taman Melawati with other unschoolers. Amrita sang her original songs.

Amrita turns 19!

Her EP “Clues” is gaining interest and attention in the local music scene. Follow her on http://www.amritasoon.com

In the Star paper.

And Sam’s hip hop class for kids & moms is finally launched!

It’s great fun & good workout!

For further info on classes & activities, please write to beyond.schooling@gmail.com

Happy Lunar New Year a Everyone!



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